The Balancing Act

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Everything in life comes down to how one learns the art of balancing. It is defined by a line.

For instance,If you need to measure the level of confidence of a person on a scale, it would range from, Not confident, Confident, to Over Confident.

At the outset it would be easy to distinguish people who are not confident and those who are over confident. But how would you define a confident person? Somewhere between the Over-confident and the Not so confident people are those with the optimum level of confidence, in the midst of the two, bang on the line. Swaying a little to either of the sides would make a difference, gradually. So it all depends on that thin line of separation between the two. One shouldn’t appear too humble which would portray that they have no confidence. Neither should one appear as a ”know-it-all”, which would go on to say they are over confident. It should be a proportionate balance between the two.


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Let’s just say Tom has a test. Let’s assume he has prepared considerably well. Now if he keeps saying, “Oh, I don’t know, I’m not too sure about what I read”, despite having prepared well, being in that state of mind, would affect his performance in an adverse manner. On the other hand, if he keeps saying “Yea, I know all this. Just simple stuff, Not worth going over it again”,  he would falsely give an impression,  implying that he knows the whole history behind it and no one can challenge his knowledge about it. This Again, will have an adverse effect. For Tom, the trick to being confident here is, Knowing that he has prepared well, to an extent, yet being on the lookout for some unexpected things which might be thrown at him. So he’s confident and cautious, and firmly grounded.


It doesn’t matter which side of the line you stand, All that matters is how you managed to stay in the middle and maintain that balance.

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Life is like a see-saw. You sit at one end, and the world is at the other end, When you go down, the world looks down upon you. When you go up, the world looks up to you. You can continue oscillating between the two extremes but you would lack that consistency and you would be undependable. Anyone can play with the see-saw, by going up and down. But the trick is knowing  the art of staying on par , maintaining a state of equilibrium with the other end. Success or failure, Happiness or sorrow, you know not to yield in to your emotional state and keep your feet firmly grounded and stay balanced.

Any day people prefer standing on a solid ground, than on a trampoline. You might go up in the air, but it’s short-lived, you know that soon you will have to down.

33 responses to “The Balancing Act”

  1. Bang on! Balance in life is very much important! But, I also feel it is how people perceive us. For some we might look confident and other may think we are over-confident.
    We are what we feel about ourselves. That is the basic line. Such an important factor in everyone's life. Liked it! 🙂

    Also, important to have a bank balance 😛

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  2. Ashwini, we can add one more level to this discussion – which is the person who is judging whether we are confident or not. Personal bias plays a huge role. I might find a confident person slightly over-confident and vice versa. But yes, a thought provoking post.. You made me think 😛 (Apologies to delete the previous comment, typos… I blame it on Friday evening blues) 😀

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  3. reminded me of what someone said once, it's very lonely at the top. now after i typed this i realize this perhaps is out of context.

    i think one has to underplay at times…however as sahana mentioned, its about the perception as well….to me one may be confident to other overconfident, no?

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  4. Hello Ashwini 🙂

    This is an amazing piece of writing and penned brilliantly! I love the topic and you made it very appealing to the reader with your apt usage of metaphors 🙂

    I think I'm a pretty 'balanced' person per your writing but then I wonder if that makes me over-confident for saying that? 😀

    Thanks so much for visiting my blog and for the follow ~ I look forward to reading more from you soon.

    Best Wishes,
    Fiona 🙂

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  5. @ Sahana
    You worded is so very well.We are what we feel about ourselves. Thank you 🙂

    @Binu THomas
    In my opinion, Other's perception of us doesn't matter. They might grade us in their definition of what confidence is and it might be radically different from my definition.

    And, THank you. Never mind 🙂

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  6. @ Chintan
    Out of context, still a good thought to share.
    And don't give much importance to what others think about you. If you know you are confident,and you know when you might sway to a side and get over confident and come back to where you were earlier, that is what matters.

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  7. Ashwini, Vijay padam dialogue madhirila dialogues ezhuthara!! (U knw the one which goes something like, Vazhkai oru raatinam pola, maela irukarava keel varuvan keela irukaravan maela povan – or something like tht!)

    Balance, balance!! Trying hard to maintain that – but not too successful I'm afraid!

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  8. @Sekar
    True. THank you

    @Anne
    Believe me, that is not where I seek inspiration from :). Occasional indulgences doesn't matter till such time they remain occasional and not a habit.

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  9. Very true. A balance is what we all should achieve. One of the toughest truth of life.

    At times acting a bit confident, even if you are actually not, gives you better results. That was one of my tricks during the long drilling viva sessions while at college.

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  10. Well confidence is knowing who you are and defining for yourself what you want to be without giving in to what others think! Yes as you say life is a fine balance of keeping the confidence levels from sagging. Very reflective indeed!

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  11. Maintaining a perfect balance is a necessity in today's world.
    Generally people grade others in comparison with themselves whether they are confident or not.
    The last line is the real dessert of this post !
    Nice read 🙂
    Take care.
    Happy diwali ashwini 🙂

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  12. @Meera
    Thank you Meera.

    @Magiceye
    All good decisions are tough to make, but once decided, there is not looking back.

    @Reicha
    Thank you so much
    Happy Diwali 🙂

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  13. A nice read Ashwini. Its a thoughtful post indeed. Its difficult to do that balancing act and one has to try hard at least for the sake of himself.

    Our act depends on the perception of others as well. For some, we may come across as over confident, arrogant etc., and for some, we may come across as not-so-confident, hopeless person. But that's the individual's perspective and nothing can make an impact on us.

    Your metaphor and the narration is too good 🙂

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  14. @ Anand
    You are right. It is the individual's perspective and how he reacts to feedback and criticism from others that matters. Everyone is ready to offer words of advice, but we should know, what has to be taken and what has to be disregarded.

    Thank you Anand 🙂

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  15. In my opinion coming to balance position is easy but maintaining it, challenging. Today you can say you are living your life in a very balanced way and if you think you are perfect in this balancing act. A test paper from the God will come and in most cases you will find that most of the people have failed the exam and crying why that thing happened to them. Remaining same in every situation is challenging.
    I joined new office , entirely different from earlier one and I thought that I will learn each thing like new born baby and always behaved with my boss in a very humble way and accepting my each mistake with grace but what happened he started considering me that I did not have caliber for new responsibility. That’s hurted me lot.. So sometime it is very difficult to draw the line of balance..sometime It depends and can be affected with the perception of other. Very well written Ashwini……….Sorry to read this beautiful post so late..keep writing:)

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  16. @ Mithlash
    I agree. Everyone is different and they have to face different situations everyday, that is why I do not insist on a fixed line of balance. They have to evolve with us, continuously, and we need to redefine them every now and then to suit our needs.
    Thank you so much 🙂

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