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Man is a social animal. Yes. And that is perhaps one reason God gave us more than one effective way to communicate and stay in touch with those whom we want to.(Oh come on, there is no point in staying in close contact with those whom we are not bothered about, except perhaps to keep a tab on them, just to eliminate the element of surprise). Right from our childhood days, we are taught the importance of socializing and the impact of the bonds of friendship and affection in our life. We may like a few people because we have so much in common. We may like a few others because they’re completely different from the way we are. There is no specific reason regarding why we should or shouldn’t like someone.
All said and done, what matters is not making new friends and staying together through the days at school or the years at college. What matters is one’s ability to stay in touch with them even after not being able to see them on a daily basis. Anyone can maintain a good rapport with those whom we get to see all day long. But retaining the essence of the friendship, for days together and years together, despite not being able to catch up with the other in person, is not something which everyone can proudly say ,they are capable of.
Ok, Why all this gyan about Friendship and Socializing with people?
Human Beings always seek company. Any day we would prefer to be stranded on a deserted Island with 10 people we know, rather than be present in our favourite hangout place, all alone. What fun it is when you don’t have people to share it with? The main purpose of having fun is lost when there is no one around to share it. Just like how someone said, if you have fun, you’ll be happy. When you share your happiness, the intensity of the feeling just increases manifold, it doesn’t diminish.
Yes, sometimes we would prefer to stay away from the crowd, and keep to ourselves either staring at the sea or gazing at the sky. Either way, there are times when we feel that we need some time off just for ourselves .Agreed. But when duration of these “few” moments extends to a major portion of our time, we can be assured that we’ve got ourselves into some kind of depression or inferiority complex, neither of which is going to benefit us in any way.
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It always feels good to be accepted by a group and to be a part of a gathering. It feels great to know that, come what may, there are people who think you are the best. It gives one a sense of contentment to know that there are actually people who like them for the way they are, with all their vice and virtues, without having the need to pretend to be someone they aren’t. It is always good to know that, there are few loving souls who would never leave us stranded, especially when we need them the most.
One main reason behind bonding with others is Trust. To Trust others and to be Trusted by others, instilling and them a sense of faith. After all, faith can move mountains. Faith might not give us the solution to a problem, but would help us stay grounded in adverse situations and give us the confidence to face the obstacles in our path.
Likewise, People who care for us might not be able to provide a solution to every problem of ours. But when they are around, their mere presence can give us the courage to face whatever fate throws at us. They might not show us the destination, but they would help us get there!
As the Mind Wanders... 
One main reason behind bonding with others is Trust. To Trust others and to be Trusted by others, instilling and them a sense of faith…truly said
Wonderful post
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Very heartfelt post. 🙂 Very true. We all long for company; people who have faith in us and people who like us the way we are. They make the world a happy place for us. 🙂
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Perfectly crafted n wisely conveyed the message. Yes faith is a virtue n in the time of adverse situation a faith shown by your friend can do miracle in one's life. 🙂
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So true! What is life without friends and loved ones!
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absolutely right – who wants to hang out in a place all alone? friends / company makes the place worth visiting.
bonding is very important. everything seems colorless n dull without it.
friends make the world go round 🙂
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Yes. That's what I feel. Thank you so much 🙂
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Thank you Raj 🙂
Yes, in the end what matters how we make ourselves happy and who were the ones instrumental in bringing happiness in our lives!
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Yes Mithlash. Thank you 🙂
Indeed ,The Power of Faith is eternal.
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Absolutely Sir. The very purpose of our existence. Thank you 🙂
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Thank you Sujatha 🙂
Yes they indeed make the world go round, when it comes to a standstill all of a sudden!
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Absolutely right, reason doesn't matter to like or not like a person. What matters is how we get along with them to have a great company to enjoy the life.
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True no one wants to be alone.
You know I have been lucky to have so many friends.
True as long as we get along with everyone, but in true real life it gets difficult as we are all different.
Yet.. life is beautiful when spent together and with people who care
Totally understand the post…
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Relationships are a matrix of trust, love, care, desires and what not. I love this line – 'Their mere presence can give us the courage to face whatever fate throws at us'
Nicely written Ash:)
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One can't imagine Life without family and friends!! There's love involved, trust, faith, expectations and sometimes – mere presence!!
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yes so very correct …socializing and the presence of loved ones gives u a sense of belonging…
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Very well written. Even though I have slowly become someone who is happy in her own company, I fond large crowds very comforting sometimes. I guess it's the social animal instinct in all of us.
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Thank you 🙂
Yes, that is what matters the most.
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Thank you 🙂
Every living soul would want to connect with those around.
Yes, I agree it might not seem easy when it comes to real life, but there would be at least one person whom we connect with on a better level.
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Thank you Saru 🙂
Yes, we might not realize it, but their mere presence would give us enormous support, since we get to know that, come what may, someone is always there for us. You know you're not going to be alone even if an adverse situation, that itself would give us some confidence.
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Exactly my thoughts Binu 🙂
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Yes Sunitha. As you said, it gives us a wonderful sense of belonging.
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Thank you Gayathri 🙂
Yes, it depends. Some people are happy with a crowd, some people are happy with just people who are close to them. All that matters is the quality of the company you have, not the numbers, right? 🙂
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Absolutely awesome Ashwini… Accompaniments like friendship, cousins, relatives makes the world for us. Their support (even not explicitly shown), will help us move mountains. As Saru said, their mere presence give us courage to take on anything…
You can't think a day without a company. Togetherness makes human a human!
Great read:)
Cheers,
Anand.
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Thank you Anand 🙂
Yes, that is what is special about us Human Beings, we long for company and enjoy the company of others 🙂
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Awesome Ashwini 🙂 Wish you reach greater heights :):)
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Thank you so much 🙂 Feeling so happy!
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truly awesome ashhh:):)
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Thank you Sudarshana 🙂
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Stood in the sand, shivering. Roar of the sea felt like churning out a violent new continent. Felt cleansed. Felt dark planet turn under my feet and knew what cats know that makes them scream like babies in night. Looked at sky through smoke heavy with human fat and God was not there. The cold, suffocating dark goes on forever and we are alone. Live our lives, lacking anything better to do. Devise reason later. Born from oblivion; bear children, hell-bound as ourselves, go into oblivion. There is nothing else. Existence is random. Has no pattern save what we imagine after staring at it for too long. No meaning save what we choose to impose. This rudderless world is not shaped by vague metaphysical forces. It is not God who kills the children. Not fate that butchers them or destiny that feeds them to the dogs. It’s us. Only us. Streets stank of fire. The void breathed hard on my heart, turning its illusions to ice, shattering them. Was reborn then, free to scrawl own design on this morally blank world. Was Rorschach.
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Such a well written post Ashwini. You are abs right – it's not the question about making friends, it's the ability to keep in touch. I knit-pick my friends and prefer to keep it tight. Love your blog.
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nice post
a friend in need is indeed
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they might not show us the destination, but they would help us get there! beautifully said yar…
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great wisdom there Ashwini. lovely post 🙂
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Thank you Sub 🙂
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Thank you Ramesh ji 🙂
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Thank you 🙂
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Thank you Kajal. Glad that you liked it. Will definitely visit your blog!
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man is a social animal..though the social relationships are indeed a very sensitive topic to be discussed…its a great topic that you have chose..and i liked the lines you wrote about trust!
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Yes, sensitive indeed. Thank you 🙂
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Super post,lady! 🙂 I can totally connect with every word you've written! It's wow WOW! 🙂
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Thank you so much Jen 🙂
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“No man is an island ….. ” wrote John Donne and was not very far from Aristotle saying that man by nature and necessity is a social animal , and the one not being so was either above humanity or below it . Yes, we all need company as we are gregarious by nature !
Nice post !
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Yes. People might say they can live without anyone, but they never can. Thank you 🙂
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