Life is Fair, you Know!

A few days back ,during one of my conversations with God, he told me something which even my parents are unaware of. He told me that I was supposed to have been their first child and that my sister should have been born after me.

What happened was, a few months before I was scheduled to be born, God felt that my parents  desired   a lovable child who would be healthy, happy, smiling, good natured, in short the perfect child every parent desired for. God then looked at me and said,” Ashwini (My star name) , these people are wonderful (my parents) and I cannot disappoint them  by sending you. You are a nice person, but they are not looking for someone like you, You will have to wait”. I was disappointed, but I did not want to upset God and told him “Never Mind, I’ll wait”. Seeing my forlorn face, God told me that I could choose which angel could take my place.
I looked around and my eyes found the exact angel my parents were looking for. She was cute, innocent, lovable and her face was so radiant. I decided she would go in before me and I would follow her, in a few years.

After 2 and a half years, when it was time for me to go, God said “You know, everything happens for a good reason. You were disappointed that day, when I said you would have to wait. But see, You were not what they were looking for then. But Now, they are looking for someone who would be different. Now, they are looking for someone like you. They would be very happy with you and the way you turn out. I’m not going to waste your time. I  will not make you wait any further. Your time has come to leave. My wishes will always be with you, Stay in touch, Will Miss you (;P) !”

Life is always fair, if you ask me. Everything happens for a good reason. If at certain times we feel it isn’t, it is always for our good then. If things do not happen the way we want them to, It doesn’t mean it’s our mistake. It’s just the Situation. Heaven hides from its creatures, the book of Fate. You might not know the reason for the way things are happening, but someone above, does. He plans meticulously to make sure everything goes on well, exactly the way we wish.

After all, being at the right place, at the right time, is what matters.

And now, for those who say I keep bossing over my sis, you know where and how it all started *wink* 🙂

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  1. U seem to be such a sweet sis Ash!

    But I have to say that I don't agree that life is fair. Yes sometimes things happen which might seem bad for us at that moment – but later on they turn out to be for the best. But that does not mean that life is fair. What of little kids who are battered and tortured? What of the hundreds of daily labourers who toil day & night in adverse conditions just for a single meal with no hope whatsoever of a better life? What of innocent women who are raped? Yes the experience might make them stronger people, one might even argue that it serves some purpose like maybe to create awareness or without cheap labour we might all have to pay more to get things done or do things by ourselves – but really can we call that fair?? If I have to be abused to become a stronger person, I'd rather not be strong! Life is definitely unfair. But what we can do is accept it and deal with it!


  2. Lovely and I would like to appreciate how you convinced yourself what exactly was the reason for you to born after your sis…lovely way to convince your heart n yes you are right, everything happens for right reason.
    The title of the post is not justifying as this is your n personal thought, I thoughts something logical would come to prove this. As far as from personal angle, it is all right:)


  3. Your sister should definitely read this – I`m sure she would like to give us her version as well :D.

    Loved the brimming positiveness in the post. Keep this going as long as you possibly can.

    Cheers 🙂


  4. That was such a sweet post. Emotionally rich and philosophically deep. Beautifully written. I was amazed and touched by your love for your sister. I am sure your parents and sister are blessed to have you. Your posts always make me smile! 🙂


  5. Hi Ashwini

    Even I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and happens for good….No matter how serious an occurance it may be(like your birth 😉 ) …Nice post 🙂


  6. LOL…I'm the eldest and I am pretty sure my brother can not talk like you. You see, I am too good to have any competition 😉

    It was fun reading it and I hope your sister reads it…:)


  7. well penned indeed……and yes, whatever happens it happens for good cause but its our impatience that we start blame game even before looking its outcome……

    BTW an interesting read actually…:))


  8. Thank you Anne.

    Yes we need to accept and deal with it. I don't think it would be appropriate for me to comment on the lives of people you mentioned.But I believe that, we need to be punished rightly for every act of us, that hurts others. God has his own ways of punishing people, so I would just say people reap what they sow. Yes, people suffer untold miseries. I am not trying to say they should. Probably in their previous birth they would have caused pain to so many people, that God decided to punish them in their next birth. when we look at one individual, we tend to feel sad. But when you are the receiving end of someone's actions and you see them getting punished, They would know that Life is indeed Fair. I respect your opinion as well.

    Thank you for throwing light on what you feel about “Life being fair” 🙂


  9. Life is always fair…it's just in our eyes how we see them. Bang on were on the right time, right place, after the right person! But you know what? 2nd children always get that little extra pamper and priviledge and are bossy!


  10. I am also the eldest, and I feel so good after reading this. This is such cute post. Your sis ought to read this. Life simple nuances subtly put! I liked :-))))))


  11. Hey Sujatha, Good to see you back 🙂
    Thank you so much :-),And yes, I do talk a lot with God you know. Specially when he is troubled and wants to talk it out to someone 🙂


  12. No Sir. This is not about me feeling bad, or me underestimating myself. It's just about being able to justify that everything happens for a good reason. I for one, do not regret being born second and I wouldn't even If I were the first child
    Thank you Sir 🙂


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