My Experiences with….People!

“Ash, I never knew you had so much time to spare. But if you ask me, I’d say you are wasting your time on this. Just look at your Updates and the numerous links you’ve shared. I don’t think it is worth the time.”
When some people just can’t stop bothering You!

The other day, someone I know, happened to notice that I was furiously typing in my mobile. He was curious to know what was holding all my attention and I told him I was replying to a friend’s status message on Facebook. He smirked. “Oh, Facebook eh ? “, was his reply. I did not reply and continued as if I did not hear him. After a while, his curiosity got the better of him and he asked me what exactly I was writing about. It was my turn to smirk and I showed him what I was writing. He then asked if he could go through my profile, Since he was/is not in my friend list. I could not see anything wrong in that, so I gladly obliged. I handed him my mobile and I did not get it back for almost an hour. While returning he said,

I said,” I would not call it a waste of time, I would say, I manage my time efficiently”. And, for your information, it is Totally worth it, considering that someone did not even realize that they were holding on to my mobile for more than an hour!”

Sometimes, when people judge others based on their Facebook profile, I get irritated. Yes, it would reflect the person who we are, but judging a person with their updates and statuses is not at all fair. Just because I spend time on Facebook {Blogs and twitter too :-)} doesn’t mean I’m jobless and waste time,and Just because someone doesn’t spend time in Social Media doesn’t go on to prove that they mange their time efficiently.

When I’m reading a book and someone interrupts me(except for my Mom), I get terribly annoyed. The other day, I left office earlier than usual, since I had come early. I rushed downstairs, just in time to board my AC bus. Finally, I boarded the bus , got my ticket and sat happily in one corner and continued to read my book. Till..

Till a middle aged lady came and sat next to me. She had an opinion on each and every thing and she made sure that everyone travelling with her, got to hear what she was saying. She occasionally tried to get into a conversation with me, but I stuck to replying in monosyllables. She cursed to driver for driving in a rash way. She cursed the auto driver who came too close to the bus. She cursed the conductor for asking her to give the exact amount, she cursed the girls who were laughing for something. She cursed the couple who were minding their own business. She cursed her Sister in law and her Mother in law. She cursed everyone around her. (No, not me!)

After a while, tired with her histrionics, she calmed down and asked her what book I was reading, She said she had read almost all the books.I couldn’t help laughing and I told that I was reading “Only Time Will Tell, by Jeffery Archer”. She couldn’t pronounce the name of the author and she kept saying that reading all those books was an entire waste of time; That they do not enlighten us, the way Ramayana and Bhagavad Gita does. She also added that, these books would never fetch us the required marks to get into a good college, and that it was a waste of one’s money. Finally she said that, she knew everything without having to read books and that these books do not make a difference to one’s lives.

I said, “Yes Aunty, Probably for you, it is not worth it, and I see why it wouldn’t, but for the Rest of us, it makes all the difference!”.

I really can’t tolerate people who never give others a chance to breath. They want others to listen to every word of theirs and can’t stand if they find someone opposing or challenging them. I know I was being rude/sarcastic, but should they not have known their limits and stuck to it. Β Everyone has an opinion, and is entitled to one. Just as how we value our opinion, we must learn to respect others’ thoughts and opinions even if we disagree with them in the context. There is just a thin line between giving an opinion and forcing your thoughts on someone and you never know when the scales tilt dangerously to one side.I really wish people stop suffocating others with their thoughts in this manner.

By the way,I did hear someone say ” If you want me not to be Sarcastic, ask them not to be Stupid”.

Exactly my sentiments!

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  1. I read this somewhere and it could not have made more sense – Opinions are like inner wear, just because you have a pair does not mean you flaunt it openly.

    The free advice brigade is something that our world will never be rid off – It always has new recruits that are more nosy and irritating than the existing ones.

    Interesting write up.

    Cheers πŸ™‚

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  2. He held your phone for an hour. I can never give my phone to anyone. And I think this lady has not read any book, not even the holy books she was talking about. Some people have to just talk and act superior. BTW, you have her a wonderful reply.

    Cheers to reading and social networking!

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  3. First thing, you shouldn't have given your phone for an hour. 5 mins is enough to scan your entire personal stuff. What the hell did he do with it for an hour? And ask me about judging people on FB profiles, I wanted to do a post on it for so long. How my sister is victimised by our own family members and how she is still haunted by that. Next time, take ear plugs with you when you travel. You can at least read your book peacefully…:)

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  4. In my opinion..you were TOO POLITE with them..You should stand in front of a mirror and practice the “look”. Once you have it to perfection- give them the look and they will leave you alone. Nothing else will stop these free advice givets…except maybe my technique where i say “that would be a hundred bucks consultation fees for every 5 mins
    . No one wants to pay for advice;-)

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  5. Why do people judge so much! He may not be on fb but would be watching TV. So wow, how effective is that haan??? I hate it when people judge. Its like if you dont follow the norms, something is wrong with you. And at the same time, if you are following the norms, then what are you doing different. You see people have and will be telling and judging you, no matter what you do. You have done well to keep such people at bay. Perfect treatment!

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  6. Even at the peril of sounding harsh and rude “Keep your breath to cool your porridge ” should be the stock reply to people who unnecessarily bother you and disturb you !

    Nice post !

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  7. I dont know why you even bothered to reply .. none of anyone's business what you are doing .

    but then we the people, always intereseted in what who is doing and ready to give our 2cents of advice for anything and everything …

    Bikram's

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  8. Here are list of things dear πŸ˜€ I have faced you can call it worst ever!!!
    1. Whats your salary πŸ˜€ tons of people around grinning and waiting me to reply 😦
    2. Whats ur age are you elder than your younger sister πŸ˜‰ how would u reply
    3. Does your husband earn more than you
    4. I am sure you will have no time left for your husband when u are doing IT job!!!
    5. You IT fellows dont socialize and will not have general knowledge tell me how much is a kilo alu today πŸ™‚
    etc
    etc
    etc
    and the list has no end πŸ˜€ so there are lot more evil questions and opinions waiting Darling dont worry πŸ˜€ forget it and but dont forget to list them for a hearty laughter πŸ˜€

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  9. I can so relate to you! 'Hate is a strong word', but I really really don't like people who look at my facebook profile and say, 'Oh looks like you have plenty of free time!' Simply cannot understand them- are they implying that they alone are so busy that they can't even check facebook, thus implying that I'm jobless? Anyway, I've learnt to give those people the cold shoulder.
    And with regard to advice, seems like that's the only thing that comes free in this world πŸ˜› Nice post, Ashwini πŸ™‚

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  10. The Free Advice Brigade seem to have a predominant presence in our country. I really wish people realized how Irritating it is, And I am sure they would realize it only after being given a taste of their own medicine.

    Thank you πŸ™‚
    Cheers πŸ™‚

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  11. Exactly Saru. I don't expect her to read Frederick Forsyth and Jeffery Archer, but I'm sure she would have behaved a lot better, had she at least read one line from those Holy scriptures. Some people are too overbearing!

    Yes, Cheers to Social Networking and Reading. Both have taught me more than what 14 years in school and 4 years in college did! πŸ™‚

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  12. Yea, you are probably right, But I made sure the mobile was near me, And he was going through my profile, nothing else. Still.

    I think I should indeed dedicate an entire post on how people tend to take Social Media updates as their sole source of information before judging a person.

    And thanks for the suggestion. It would benefit me in a very good way πŸ˜‰

    Thank you!

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  13. Ha. That is an amazing Idea Doctor. At least that would keep a few people at bay. And you know, when people get all excited about finding a prey to force their thoughts on, the look, unless extremely powerful would be a total waste! BUt thanks for the Idea, it would surely come in handy πŸ™‚

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  14. Thanks for pointing it out. Yea, it was a typo. I did not notice it till you had pointed it out.

    Yea, One can always find people like them all around. Thank you πŸ™‚

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  15. Exactly my thoughts Jenny. Isn't that so baseless? Judging people has become so common, but at least there should be some logical amount of reasoning, right? Nothing whatsoever stupid as these.

    Well said Jenny, people would judge us no matter what. It is up to us to stay alert and be wary of such people.

    Thank you πŸ™‚

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  16. Yes Sir. Occasional chats can be pardoned, but when someone notices that a person is busy with something, they should be decent enough to leave them alone!

    Thank you Sir.

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  17. I felt that, at least that would stop her from the constant chattering and the constant effort to start a conversation with me.

    Well said Bikram, we are always interested in what others are doing and we take it for granted that we should be informed, to the finest detail. And Advice, oh don't get me started on the way people give advice here.

    Thank you πŸ™‚

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  18. That is so True Sir. In fact, these days I get to travel a lot and I've made really good friends now. So it becomes difficult to distinguish these pass time gossip mongers from the genuine ones.

    Thank You Sir πŸ™‚

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  19. General knowledge is knowing the price of Aloo? ROFL πŸ™‚

    Yea Ramya, there are many such questions which people do not hesitate or think twice before putting it across. A prolonged silence would give them the answer they were look for, is my guess πŸ™‚

    And yes, we should remember to laugh, a lot. That would get us out of such situations most of the time πŸ™‚

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  20. I should take a leaf from your book and just ignore their silly doubts regarding my Facebook vacations πŸ™‚
    And,a s our Doctor had suggested ” That would be Rs 500 per minute” would certainly keep a few of them at bay.

    Thank you πŸ™‚

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  21. Those were some testing people adventures. I am afraid there are many people out there with utter disregard to everyone around them. As you rightly said, being strongly opinionated is not the problem. But there is also a fine art of agreeing to disagree. Alas, such people haven’t heard about that. For them, there is only one way of doing things, only a particular set of things they deem correct to do and anyone who doesn’t follow this diktat is either wasting their time or not doing well in life.

    And another irritating quality that is so common in such a species is to judge everyone under the sun. They would pass on opinion on you even if they haven’t seen you before and compliment the opinion with a generous advice of how to lead your life. I have had my encounters too with such people and trust me, being sarcastic is an excellent repellent for such folks. You did remarkably well and I was smiling at your retorts. Nicely articulated post! Keep up with your social networking and your reading. There is nothing called a useless book. We stand to gain in knowledge from every single book we read.

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  22. //There is just a thin line between giving an opinion and forcing your thoughts on someone and you never know when the scales tilt dangerously to one side.I really wish people stop suffocating others with their thoughts in this manner.//

    It is SO well put and the whole FB thing reminds me of my post here : http://grafitti-on-my-wall.blogspot.in/2011/12/t20-top-twenty-things-that-make-me-kill.html

    They just accuse you to be jobless and their accusation is absolutely baseless. ARGGH. To put up with such people *smirks*

    Only time will tell is SUCH a lovely book, it was one of my favorite weekend reads, am waiting for the next books in Cliffton series! and Ramayana/ Mahabharata – my granny should have taught me all those stories, I am at NO fault for not knowing them! Paati, are you listening?? πŸ˜› πŸ˜€

    Chill and have a lovely eve! πŸ™‚
    Kappu

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  23. I could not have conveyed it better Raj. Utter disregard is the perfect expression. It's like saying, It's either my way or the high way.

    As I had mentioned, everyone judges every other, so it is not that big a deal till one speaks with conviction as if they knew the person for ages, without any proof.

    Thank you Raj, for the wonderful words. To think of it, Social Networking has changed my life, in a positive aspect in many ways and I'm eternally thankful for the numerous opportunities that came /are still coming my way because of this.

    Thank you πŸ˜‰

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  24. Hi. Welcome to my Blog πŸ™‚

    The very thought of putting up with such people is irritating, but to think that we are not as prejudiced as them, makes me feel better!
    Thank you πŸ™‚

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  25. its an art to keep others shut when we meet such people
    its very difficult art i think
    few people no one can shut them them are impossible

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  26. People now-a-days do judge based on social network updates, pics etc! Even the recruitment guys do a scanning of social networking sites (preferably facebook) before selecting / short-listing a candidate.. All part of human nature, i guess. We need to know what's happening in other's life even though we are not interested..

    By the way, nice one liner on Sarcasm and nice way to silence the lady! πŸ™‚

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  27. It is definitely an art and indeed difficult to politely tell others that we are not interested in any way in having a conversation with them! A few people are just impossible! Completely agree with your thoughts!

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  28. Yes Binu. These days it's become common to judge people, but to such an extent that they start forming strong opinions about them even without knowing who they really are?

    Yes, we need to know what is going around,but there is a limit to which we could stalk others, right?

    And, thank you πŸ™‚

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  29. the best part is when these nonsensical opinions come from people who hardly know you or people who pretend to know you… I am tired of saying 'mind ur own business' because poking their noses into others' affairs is apparently their business.. phew!!!

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  30. Exactly! These people hardly know us and within five minutes they are ready to write a made up History about us. And wonderful way of saying it, that probably is their main business πŸ˜›

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  31. Awesome post .. Wish I could post this and teach people who laugh and judge us by our Social networking profiles and tag us JOB-LESS when all they try and do is to poke into our profile and JUDGE us !!! true feelings of mine in words πŸ™‚ lovely write up and I'm sorry I read this late 😦

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