Recently when someone asked me what my definition of an achiever was, I said ‘An achiever is someone who sets a goal for himself and successfully completes the task’. When my friend further enquired about what kind of a task befits the definition of an achiever, I found myself coming up with a lot of theories but I wasn’t able to find an exact answer. A little later the realization dawned on me that there can never be a universal definition, and that to each and every person the definition varies.
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God is smart. When he made us human beings, he decided he would keep one thing common to everybody, he made everyone different. So everybody is as unique as everybody else. That’s the similarity. No two people are the same. Similarly no two people face the same situation or obstacles. What appears a mammoth task for someone might be a cakewalk for someone else. That would again depend on a lot of factors. It wouldn’t be appropriate to come to a conclusion and decide who is better. People are good in their own way, but the question still remains.
Why are people always compared? And why a common yardstick is not always successful in bringing out the winner?
Usually a comparison is done to gauge the intelligence or a particular aspect of a person. This would make the life of someone easier, someone who is entrusted with the job of selecting the right candidate. Fair enough, given that in a very short period of time, that is the only available and to an extent a practical option.
Beyond a certain extent, particularly for someone who is at the receiving end, comparison wouldn’t be just. Instead of comparing two individuals who are so different from each other, it would do more good if people are compared with themselves, with their present position and with their past positions. We are talking of the same person, perhaps the same level of intelligence, probably at different situations.
I am not trying to find fault with any procedure. All I’m trying to say is that we shouldn’t take comparison way too seriously. It should be taken with the right amount of seriousness because no one knows us better than us. We would, or at least our conscience would know if we’ve been true to ourselves and we would be the best judge to know if we’ve been able to grow significantly or not.
Every single one of us is good in some way. If people claim that they are of no good, it would just mean that they still haven’t found out what they are good at. Some of us are lucky to find out our strengths at an early age. Some of us might not be that lucky, but eventually, would end up finding out what we are really good at. Beyond that, the choice lies in our hands, whether to pursue what we like or to keep things the same way.
So next time someone asks you about your achievements, tell them what all YOU feel are your achievements. Just because the other person doesn’t seem to think much about it, doesn’t necessarily mean that way. For him it might not be important, but for you, It means everything, hold on to it.