We’ve heard it time and again but there is so much to it than what meets the eye. Life is an enigma to most of us. It’s not something we read about and watch the events unfold. It takes its own course and prefers to have its own turns and twists. Clueless and unpredictable as it may see to the untrained eye, Life exactly knows what it is doing and where it is headed to. It’s just that a normal human is incapable of trying to deciphering it to a T.
Life works in a very strange way. It gives you something when you don’t ask for anything and refuses to give you something when you desperately need it , or when you think you desperately need something. When racing down the road, we have a vision of what lies in front of us. But Life lies a step higher and it has a vision of not just what lies immediately in front, but what lies in the impending future as well. So life is poised in a strategically comfortable position to make choices for us, most of the time, right choices. But we are oblivious to this fact, of course.
Someone rightly said that Life teaches us some of the most valuable lessons ever. True. Life has managed to teach lessons which cannot be learnt through any other means. It is stereotyped that we learn a lesson only after making a mistake. I beg to disagree. If we are wise enough to see through every situation, we would learn numerous different lessons even from a simple situation. It all depends on the way we look at things and whether we are ready to learn or not. It all comes down to the choices we make.
Speaking of choices, Life is doesn’t work in an autocratic manner. Instead, at every juncture, Life would be kind enough to give us choices and leave the decision making to us. Even after this, some of us tend to blame the consequences of our actions and decisions on a so called “destiny”. Remember, we are accountable for every little thing that happens in our lives. It happens only because we allow them to. There is no point blaming something else for our mistakes and miscalculations.
Just today, I heard this wonderful quote. “Life is going to knock us down, it all depends on us whether we get up and fight back or not”. Sooner or later, life would definitely throw some challenges at us just to see how we react. I always believe that we are tested based on what we are capable of. If the going gets hard, we can happily conclude that Life has seen our potential and thinks that we would stand the test of times. Some of us take it up as a challenge and take it as an opportunity to prove to the world what we’re capable of. To prove it to every other person who had ridiculed us in the past, or to those who simply kept demotivating us just because we were considered ordinary. These tough situations extract the best from us and help us showcase it. These situations shape our lives and help us rediscover ourselves. It even helps us know who we truly are, something that even we might not have been aware of. At the end of this we either accomplish our task successfully or gain hands on experience, valuable experience from the incident.
A friend of mine recently asked me If all was fair in Life. If we truly believe that we are here to learn something from every second of Life, yes Life is fair. In the end it all comes down to the perspective of an individual. And I truly believe, Life is definitely fair. We should we smart enough to see what we are blessed with.
So, what do you think?
March 24, 2013 at 2:33 pm
Well, good perspective.We usually blame the unfortunate incidents on “Destiny” or with 'Bad luck' and fortunate things on GOD(if we believe in) else it would be termed as luck.
We are accountable for everything either directly or indirectly.
TRUE-> “Life is going to knock us down, it all depends on us whether we get up and fight back or not”.
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March 24, 2013 at 2:59 pm
Good article Ashwini, well said its all depends on our perception and attitude towards life. 🙂
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March 24, 2013 at 3:42 pm
Deepak.. Sema pseudo name po 🙂
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March 24, 2013 at 4:52 pm
Very well said 🙂 I think it is human nature to throw the blame-ball at somebody, most times it is 'Destiny'. We must stop looking for excuses and learn to look for answers 🙂
Nice post,Ash!
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March 24, 2013 at 4:55 pm
The biggest issue with life is – It's ruthlessly fair. We can't fix the system or alter its course, as per our fancies and conveniences. We can't bribe life and we cannot control it. We cannot subjugate life and make it work as per our wishes and desires.
In my opinion, life is complicated to people who wish to complicate it, and simple to people who wish to keep it simple.
Destination Infinity
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March 25, 2013 at 2:41 am
Our way of seeing life is what matters. If we think that it's fair, well then it's. Else it's not. A superb article as usual 🙂
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March 25, 2013 at 6:10 am
Hmm , philosophical musings.
Life, or call it Nature as such is not fair nor unfair; not benign or hostile, but indifferent. Whether you are alive and kicking or whether I 'm bedeviled by misery doesn't matter for life or what ever you may call it.This is my take.
Then, at the end of it all what sense does it make whether you learn from life or you do not- in one blip you are gone?
Withe regard to standing up every time you fall down, that is the only viable solution and the only choice worth- the other is to be ploughed under.
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March 25, 2013 at 8:49 am
Wow! Thoughtful post, I always used to wonder on the same lines. Learning after a mistake is great but we really can't afford to make all of them, hence we see, we think, we learn. It is a wonderful life, we make us what we think and act.
Ultimately our perceptions shape us and we go abiding by them.
Keep smiling,
Lakshmi
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March 25, 2013 at 12:37 pm
Life is fair according to me. It all depends upon the each ones perception
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March 25, 2013 at 4:42 pm
Well, life is a teacher, you will be rebuked, you'll be awarded. It's entirely up to you how you take it. But if you want maximum happiness than think of it as being fair and nothing else.
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March 26, 2013 at 1:15 pm
Very philosophical, very insightful. 🙂 You are right, life teaches us great things, we don't necessarily have to make a mistake to learn, we just need to be wise enough to understand the situation and deal with it using our abilities, no matter how limited they are, we need to use them to the fullest. You do have a wise head on your shoulders, Ash. Lovely post.
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March 26, 2013 at 7:33 pm
I usually follow two quotes “Life is an adventure” from Stuart Little :). And “For every reaction there is equal and opposite reaction.”. This are my code:) Cheers.
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March 28, 2013 at 4:14 am
In Life, accept that sometimes you are the Pigeon and sometimes the statue! That's what I believe in. There will be good and bad times. As you rightly pointed out, it depends on whether we can stand back up after getting knocked out that really defined how we have lived our life.. 🙂
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March 29, 2013 at 6:03 am
Life is always an unsolved mystery..very well expressed article & like u said “I live life, Just The Way I Like” so live life to the fullest & Take life as it comes.. Ashwini:)GOD<3U
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March 31, 2013 at 7:14 pm
Exactly. We are responsible for what happens to us.
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March 31, 2013 at 7:14 pm
Prasanna : You came here for the name? 😀
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March 31, 2013 at 7:14 pm
Thank you :-), Yes it might seem trivial, but it makes all the difference 🙂
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March 31, 2013 at 7:16 pm
Yea, you phrased it nicely, we should learn to look for answers. Thank you 🙂
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March 31, 2013 at 7:17 pm
Loved your comment Rajesh. It all depends on how simple or complicated we make our lives. Thank you for stopping by. 🙂
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March 31, 2013 at 7:17 pm
All is fair. Thank you 🙂
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March 31, 2013 at 7:22 pm
That was another interesting insight. True, fair or not fair is what we call it. Life just acts indifferent to the happenings. Thank you!
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March 31, 2013 at 7:22 pm
We tread the path they choose. Thank you 🙂
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March 31, 2013 at 7:24 pm
True.
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March 31, 2013 at 7:25 pm
And don't we all strive for that happiness? Thank you 🙂
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March 31, 2013 at 7:25 pm
Thank you Akshay :-), Yes God provides everyone with the same set of ingredients, whether we make a salad or a delicious meal depends on us.
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March 31, 2013 at 7:28 pm
Stuart Little. Oh yea:-)
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March 31, 2013 at 7:29 pm
Wow. I am getting to read so many wonderful perspectives through the comments of many people. Thank you Binu 🙂 Loved your phrases.
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March 31, 2013 at 7:33 pm
Thank you 🙂
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