The other day on my way to work, I felt happy all of a sudden because I realized something very important. Winners aren’t always the best. Sometimes, they are; but not necessarily always. That’s mainly because winners are chosen based on the opinions of a few, who would not necessarily bring out the common opinion.

You might wonder how this realization dawned on me. I was reading this book written by an Indian Author, which won a Booker Prize a few years back as a part of my reading challenge for 2014. I picked the book only because I liked the title ‘The God of Small Things’. That’s where the liking for the book started and I can pretty well say that’s where it stopped. I told a friend that it felt like an ‘Attention-deficit 10 year old narrating it’ and she said that was the whole point. After I was told that it was intentional, I tried to read it the way I read other books, but I somehow couldn’t connect with it. (Now it’s another thing that I ensure I complete reading a book irrespective of how bad I find it).

This is just my opinion. A few friends said they loved the book and they were able to justify it. Just that, it was the same reason that I did not seem to like that book. Opinions differ of course and that’s when I realized (after painfully reading a lot of review on the said book) that a lot of people did not like it either. Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is to not get weighed down when you’re not the winner.

Earlier, we were trained/instructed to focus on winning. But now, much has been spoken about enjoying the journey without blindly focusing on the destination. Having said that, the amount of competition today is overwhelming. There is competition everywhere and it is a true case of ‘The Survival of the Fittest’. Today we have more opportunities than the previous decades to showcase our talents to the world. This is a good trend considering that there are far more experts in today’s world when compared to the past.

Where there was one expert, today we have a hundred of them. And all hundred are equally talented with the passion for pursuing their dreams. All hundred are capable of doing great things and go on to do them. But if someone was asked to judge who was the best among the hundred, there would be some criteria to narrow down on the choice for the best, or the best among the best. Finally, based on the opinion of the judge, a winner would be chosen. But does that mean that the remaining 99 are losers? Definitely not.

The problem is, people stick to the standard dictionary and firmly state that the opposite of the term ‘winning’ is ‘losing’.Β  It might stand true for English, but in the game of life, it necessarily doesn’t. There are so many people who haven’t won, but who haven’t lost either. There is a middle ground. These people keep trying no matter what. They have set goals for themselves and would rather measure success by their own ways and means. Being adjudged a winner or a loser does not make a difference to them, because they know those are titles which others give them. The true title they consider worthy is what they give themselves. They measure their success against their goals and expectations.

So, finally what matters is what you think of yourselves and not what others think of you. What matters is what percentage you allow your mind to take in from others’ opinion of you.

And that’s why I feel that winners aren’t always the best. And the best aren’t always the winners!

What do you think?