I’m not Perfect, and I Know it!

It is one of those days that I plan to do something and things just don’t go my way.

After a good rest (a bit too long, my mind says!) from the previous Marathon (I’m not sure how many more Marathons I would take up, so that’s the reason for the emphasis here) I had taken part in, I started training for the next big Marathon that is to take place in the city. With the help of three successive alarms at 5.15 am, 5.30 am and 5.45am, I was up and running in my brand new Adidas shoes. As expected, I was exhausted from the run since I was running after almost a month. I got back home earlier than I intended to, fixed up a cup of coffee and relaxed in the couch and continued with the book I was reading.

Normally I go for swimming during the weekends but on this particular day I was exhausted and decided against swimming. The moment I decided not to head to the pool, I started feeling guilty. I was slightly worried, if this excuse would go on and on for some time, to the point where I would end up staying away from the pool forever. More than the pool, I was guilty because of the decision I had taken. I was wondering if it was alright to not follow the plan that I had charted for the day.

People around us often keep saying that human beings aren’t perfect, but some of us hardly pay attention to that. It’s not the obsession with being perfect, but following our schedules and plans. We make up the rules and then we start feeling bad if we aren’t able to follow them. We unnecessarily stress ourselves and think about why things have gone wrong. I’ve seen this happen with so many people around me. Draft a plan, and if even one thing does not go according to the plan or doesn’t materialize they lose their cool. We focus on worrying and analyzing what went wrong than focusing on what could be done.

I’m not the kind of person who meticulously plans every living minute. I’m more the kind of person who has a To-Do list on a daily basis with a realistic (and sometimes unrealistic) deadlines to check each item on the list. But sometimes when I’m unable to complete the tasks, I feel guilty. Even more guilty, if it was a conscious decision not to do something, like the scenario here.

 A little later, I realized that there was no hard-and-fast rule that all those tasks have to be completed by that day. More importantly, I realized I would have to stop worrying unnecessarily about trivial stuff and feel guilty about it. Certain things happen and certain things don’t.  Not everything works as per the plan, and it’s completely fine. After all, we’re all human beings and not machines. And there are a whole lot of things which we can worry about, some things are just not worth even worrying and wasting time over it.

We need to accept that we’re human beings, and that we’re not perfect. So what’s the use of worrying? We might as well enjoy the moment with a cup of tea 🙂

And that’s exactly what I did!

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  1. I admire you for your determination to keep fit by the regular preparations for marathons and participating in them.You do swimming too.You have a To-do list daily and attempt to finish as much as possible.Imagine the majority have no fitness regimes or any plan for the day.There is no need to regret if you are not able to achieve 100%

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  2. It is after three weeks that i came online to write and stumbled over yours! Its so right. We ain't no perfect and we must not run after success. We will achieve anything we want if we are determined and relaxed and true 🙂 Loved your post as always 🙂

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  3. how true Ash…:)
    sometimes we should accept that we are human and shouldn't push ourselves more than required, there is a limit after all………..
    I wish I could practice it in real life- living in the moment and not being 24*7 worried about what next……!!

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  4. It is perfectly normal to slack off once in a while. No doubts. Beating yourself up for slacking is not good, but sadly, it is normal.

    The problem is when we make a habit out of slacking. Not only in fitness, but in other things as well. Not calling parents or friends for a week is fine, but not fine if the 'curfew' extends for a month. Kudos on your efforts to stay fit, Ashwini.

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  5. I intend to run for the marathon as well in Dec, and I am practicing hard for it! I missed my run today, and yeah I do feel very weird because I did that. I think its fine to let go in a while, but have a to do list makes me very sane sometimes.

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  6. I don't make a To-Do list and even if I do, it's ok to not complete all the items on it…Live each moment the way you want to at that present moment – NOT according to some plan you had chalked out – that moment when you wrote the plan is gone…It's not necessary you'll feel that way at present 🙂 Live in the present – it is the gift you've got! Life is beautiful, Life is effortless…Life is fun 🙂 We should just stop stressing about things! It's ok if things don't go as planned…..

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  7. do you know anyone who is PERFECt.. because I think no one is and No one Can be . it is this IMPREFECTION that makes us all perfect 🙂

    dont stress .. giving your best is in your hands and that what you did .. and that is MOST important 🙂 all the best always and God bless 🙂

    Bikram's

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  8. Right! I have a routine and I prefer sticking to it. If I don't do it for a day, I don't feel bad. But if that is on the verge of becoming a habit, I feel bad, very bad. More than having a list and complying with it, it's important that you grow. Btw, good luck with next marathon preparation. Inspiring!

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  9. Thanks Divya for those inspiring words. It was an interesting thought, something which I'm not used to 🙂

    But yes, too much planning would spoil the sense of an adventure 🙂

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  10. HALLELUJAH!!!! YYou are on point!!!!!
    We may not be perfect but perfection is overrated anyway. We are the best in our roles and we only constantly strive to get better. That is all that matters.
    You ran!! I need to start running!

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  11. What a lovely way of putting it. Definitely Sir, I would rather be an imperfect human who can eat and make mistakes rather than a perfect Robot 🙂

    Trying to stay fit, bitten by the fitness bug 😀

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  12. That's a good realization and I have learnt to know my limitation through experiences in my life. By knowing one's limitation , we can make sure that we don't stress too much and for that matter no one is perfect. All that one is trying is to work at their level best..thanks for sharing the post Ashwini 🙂

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  13. It was as if I was reading about myself. We are all trapped in a cage of our own making. We may complain of our regimented lives but find comfort in routines.

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  14. I am one of those “meticulously” planning types. I know its not exciting, but I get edgy when unpleasant surprises are thrown at me. But I understand that’s perhaps not how we need to live our lives. It needs some sort of a surprise and we-deal-with-it-when-it-happens kind of an attitude. That makes like a lot interesting. I am trying 😀

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  15. I think my comment got lost. I typed a long comment. Let me type again.
    I agree with you on this. I plan a lot (as you already know) and used to get tensed when everything did not go according to my plan. These days I have started accepting that sometimes I cannot stick to a plan. It is okay to let go and there is always next day 🙂

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  16. I need to constantly remind myself not to worry. And for a bit there I was worrying about worrying. Yes, that happened. Sigh. But thanks for the perspective. Much needed.

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