If someone had asked me what my superpower was, I would be on seventh heaven and profusely thank the person for even thinking that I was capable of having a superpower in the first place. As luck would have it, this is exactly what happened when I came across this question some time back. My first thoughts were regarding how unsuitable I was to answer this question. It’s not that I have a low self esteem but it never occurred to me that I would  have a trait that could make me feel powerful.

But after a while I warmed up to the idea that perhaps everyone had a superpower and it was up to the individual to find out what lay beneath that mask of innocence (or stupidity?).

I felt slightly good about myself and decided to unravel the mystery. The miracles a single thought could do to your self esteem! I proceeded to do what I’ve been meaning to do for a long time, but never found a solid reason to. I made a list of qualities (because just thinking never gets you anywhere unless you define them in the form of words) that I felt were unique to me.

The first draft looked somewhat like this:

  1. Can initiate a good conversation with anyone
  2. Can empathise with people, specially when they’re angry.
  3. Cannot stay mad at a loved one for a long time.
  4. Can identify what’s ‘My problem’ and what’s not
  5. Believes that ‘Everything happens for a good reason’

I was pretty impressed with this list, and yes this one did make my feel good about myself. While I was pondering over the one feature I would have to pick, I decided to think for myself. I may not be surrounded by people all the time, but I need to be able to tolerate myself 24*7 before I even start thinking about others.

My grandfather told me to believe that nothing is a coincidence and that everything happens for a good reason. The more I believed this, the more I appreciated how every single thing happens for a greater good, something which we might not immediately perceive. This was a strong contender for being considered my superpower. But considering the exertion to be endured from the time something happens to when we realize its significance, it can prove to be very challenging.  

My life has been a lot easier ever since I started following this rule – My problem vs Your problem. I have been sparing myself of a lot of unnecessary guilt and stress ever since I started classifying everything as My problem and Not My Problem/Other’s Problem. Let me give you an idea of how it works.

  1. Something happens
  2. Check if it is ‘My Problem’ or ‘Other’s Problem’
    1. If it’s ‘My Problem’ -> Work towards solving it
      1. If problem is solved -> Be happy
      2. If problem is not solved -> Try another solution. Even after your best effort if nothing happens, accept you’ve done your best and let fate do its work.
    2. If it’s ‘Other’s Problem’ -> Accept things are not in my control and empathize with /support those in need.

Once I’m sure I’ve done my best I stop brooding over the what-ifs and how I could have fared better. Life is a lot better when you accept that many things that are beyond your control. Calvin rightly said, ‘Life is a lot more fun when you’re not responsible for your actions.’

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I have a clear winner.

When we face a problem, we would do ourselves a big favour if we stop being emotional and handle it practically. We will realize that being able to control things in our life is just an illusion, so we might as well stop obsessing over having everything sorted and gladly accept that not everything is in our control. The best we can do is to give our utmost and take a chill pill while we wait for the universe to do its job.

And that’s precisely the reason you should believe in miracles.

So, what’s your superpower? I’m not asking if you have one. I know you do. Please tell the world about your superpower. We’re waiting  to hear from you.

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